First of all, THANK YOU Burger time for sticking up for me. I did not say I would shun my grandchildren. I would never shun anyone, especially my own grandchildren. What I ment was that as for babysitting at no charge so my DIL can have some free time, I am considering quiting. I have not done this yet, just thinking. They would always be welcome to visit as a family. Our Casa is Their Casa.
Well, first of all this is what you said originally:
I have been trying the 'nice' way for 3mo and it's not working. I'm kind of up against a wall and thinking of pulling out of the whole thing by saying 'if the hair does not go back to normal then they cannot come here'
That is far different from:
What I ment was that as for babysitting at no charge so my DIL can have some free time, I am considering quiting. I have not done this yet, just thinking. They would always be welcome to visit as a family. Our Casa is Their Casa.
Which is why you got the response you got. What I got from your orignal words was that you would not allow them to visit. That this was not a matter of babysitting.
I should have let you all know I was not telling the whole story. It is too personal and I become overly emotional.
Usually there is, but all anyone had to go on was what you told us.
What I am struggling with is, how much does a grandparent or a parent take before they push back?
It is not a matter of how much does a grandparent take before they push back.This is not about any grandparent, this is about what you are willing to take. This is about your own opinions of respectful grooming and whatever else. And you asked for opinions and got them from a variety of people. You agreed with the opinions that suited your own and are shooting down the ones that disagree. So why ask for our opinion?
Judging by what we had to go on, these are the opinions you got for better or worse.
